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What Self-Love Really Looks Like
🇺🇸 What Self-Love Really Looks Like What does it really mean to love yourself? The answer is different for everyone. In my work, I meet women and men who each have their own understanding of what it means to care for themselves. One woman told me, “Of course I love myself. I get my hair done, buy designer clothes, and go to the gym.” A man once said, “I spend time with friends, have hobbies, and make room for the things I enjoy.” All of these things can be meaningful forms

Li Koren Shtern
1 day ago11 min read


Why I No Longer Share My Life on Facebook
🇺🇸 Why I No Longer Share My Life on Facebook Not Everything Needs to Become a Post. At some point, I almost stopped writing on Facebook. I no longer share my thoughts, personal updates, or photos there. It happened gradually. I lost interest in waiting for likes, reading random comments, and creating content simply to remind people that I was still there. Now casual acquaintances no longer know what is happening in my life, and when we meet, they no longer say, “I saw on yo

Li Koren Shtern
Jul 1512 min read


The Vatican in Israel
🇺🇸 The Vatican in Israel A well-known lawyer, Tamir Turgal, who works to defend people’s rights in matters of medical freedom, vaccination, and drug testing, once said a very precise phrase: “Medicine in Israel is like the Vatican in Italy.” And the more I observe what is happening, the more I understand how accurate this comparison is. Because the Vatican in Italy is a state within a state. With its own laws, its own rules, its own hierarchy, its own levers of pressure and

Li Koren Shtern
Jul 59 min read


Jellyfish
🇺🇸 Jellyfish Today the sea washed a jellyfish ashore. I did not know whether it was still alive. It lay almost motionless on the sand — transparent, defenseless, barely resembling a creature with a life of its own. I picked it up carefully and placed it back in the water. A few seconds later, it began to move and quickly drifted toward the depths. It made me unexpectedly happy. I felt that I had saved a life. I watched it disappear and wondered: what happened from its point

Li Koren Shtern
Jun 95 min read


No Dogs or Jews Allowed”: How Airspace Discrimination Returned to Europe
🇺🇸 “No Dogs or Jews Allowed”: How Airspace Discrimination Returned to Europe It was an ordinary summer day, June 3, 2026. A civilian airliner belonging to the Israeli airline Israir, chartered from a European carrier, was operating a scheduled flight to Ljubljana. On board were ordinary people: families with children and tourists flying to their long-awaited vacations. They had made no military decisions, nor did they participate in global geopolitics. Their only “guilt” la

Li Koren Shtern
Jun 48 min read


Not to Be Strong. Just to Live
🇺🇸 Not to Be Strong. Just to Live. What war does to the body, to a home, and to the simple wish for an ordinary life. When your body hears sirens again and again — explosions, interceptions, rockets, falling debris — at some point it simply stops coping. No matter how strong you are.No matter how much of an optimist you consider yourself to be.Your nervous system still breaks down. I have lived in Israel for a long time. Sirens and explosions are familiar to me. But familia

Li Koren Shtern
May 2422 min read


Intimacy as a Source of Toxicity: Why Your Body Protests?
🇺🇸 Intimacy as a Source of Toxicity: Why Your Body Protests? We are used to thinking of intimacy as an exchange of pleasure or, at the very least, simple physiology. But have you ever wondered why, after a night with a man, instead of the promised "glow" and surge of energy, you sometimes feel as if you’ve been hit by a truck? I want to talk about symptoms that many women tend to blame on the weather, lack of sleep, or work stress. Observe yourself. Have you ever experience

Li Koren Shtern
May 108 min read


I feel and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
🇺🇸 I feel and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I know we are all searching for a moment of quiet amidst this madness. We are all grasping for some kind of anchor—whether through AI or the endless scrolling of news feeds—just to figure out how to keep going. I feel it too. Yesterday, I was jolted out of bed by the roar of an interception; the system brought down a drone right near my home, and the walls shook. No living soul deserves to wake up to the sound of explos

Li Koren Shtern
Apr 94 min read


We Just Changed the Stage
🇺🇸 We Just Changed the Stage We live in a world that is called progressive. Technology. Medicine. Artificial intelligence. It feels like we’ve come a long way from the age of kings. But if you strip away the surface, one simple truth remains: nothing has really changed. There used to be monarchs. Now there are elites, governments, corporations. There used to be castles.Now there are gated communities. There used to be peasants. Now there are people who spend their lives

Li Koren Shtern
Apr 55 min read


You Can’t Prepare for This in Advance
🇺🇸 You Can’t Prepare for This in Advance You can’t prepare yourself for betrayal. You may tell yourself over and over again that it could happen, that you’re ready, that you understand the risks — but when it does happen, the pain still comes in full. It doesn’t soften just because you expected it. Betrayal isn’t only about romantic relationships.It can come from a friend, from family, from people you trusted, from those you relied on. And that’s exactly why it cuts so de

Li Koren Shtern
Mar 293 min read


No one really teaches us how to be parents
🇺🇸 No one really teaches us how to be parents No one really teaches us how to be parents. And because of that, many of us simply don’t know what it truly means to become one. The only examples we have come from our own childhood. We watched our parents, our grandparents, the parents of our friends. We saw how they spoke to us, the choices they made, the way they raised their children. But even those memories only show us the surface. We never truly knew what was happening i

Li Koren Shtern
Mar 87 min read


Saturday morning. We were at home…
🇺🇸 Saturday morning. We were at home… Saturday morning. We were at home… when the emergency alert tore through the house so sharply it felt like a portal to hell had opened inside every phone at once. Silence — and then that inhuman sound, followed by the siren that flips the air inside out. Our son got scared, of course. And so did we — those sounds are unhealthy for any living creature. You can’t help but flinch when a siren breaks into your reality like that, as if somet

Li Koren Shtern
Mar 18 min read


We Are Not Alone
🇺🇸 We Are Not Alone Many spiritual traditions teach us not to cling. Not to depend on people, circumstances, or anything outside ourselves for happiness. We’re encouraged to cultivate inner steadiness, to find the center that stays intact no matter what changes around us. And I agree with that. But the path of inner growth often reshapes our lives. Old social circles dissolve. Friends drift in different directions. Even the people once closest to us sometimes grow distant a

Li Koren Shtern
Feb 224 min read


658
🇺🇸 658 I step into the elevator. A large man is already inside — oval face, short hair, leather jacket. I press the button for the ninth floor. He doesn’t speak, but the tension is palpable. I have the clear sense that there is something in my bag he wants. The odds are not in my favor. Without saying a word, I extend the bag toward him. Just a gesture. He doesn’t take it. The elevator continues upward. Ninth floor. The doors open. I step out. A second later, he steps out b

Li Koren Shtern
Feb 156 min read


The World Tree: Traces of a Lost Reality
🇺🇸 The World Tree: Traces of a Lost Reality The World Tree is one of the oldest and most persistent legends in human culture. It appears among peoples who never crossed paths with one another: • Scandinavians — Yggdrasil • India — Ashvattha • Buddhism — Bodhi Tree • Celts — Bile • Slavs — World Oak • Turkic and Kazakh peoples — Baiterek • Zoroastrians — Gaokerena • Maya — Yaxche (Ceiba) • Iroquois — Tree of the World • Dogon (Africa) — Baobab as the World Tree • Sumerians —

Li Koren Shtern
Feb 86 min read


The Music I No Longer Choose to Hear
🇺🇸 The Music I No Longer Choose to Hear In recent months, I’ve noticed that I almost never initiate calls anymore—even with the people closest to me.And it’s not because I’m no longer interested in their lives.Not because I’ve grown distant or lost warmth.Not at all. The reason is simply a different one. Every call feels like a door opening to the outside world The moment I hear the voice of someone I love, a familiar sequence begins within minutes:news updates, war reports

Li Koren Shtern
Feb 15 min read


Mom, I think I’m not very smart...
🇺🇸 Mom, I think I’m not very smart… One day my son said to me: “Mom, I think I’m not very smart…” I was surprised and asked him why he thought that.He quietly replied: “Because I don’t get high grades in school…” In that moment, it became deeply important for me to explain to him what I know to be true: School grades are not a measure of intelligence. Not at all. They don’t define a child’s personality, value, or abilities. I told him: “You know, in some countries they unde

Li Koren Shtern
Jan 254 min read


The Lake, the Fish, and the Orange Disk
🇺🇸 The Lake, the Fish, and the Orange Disk At night, I found myself in the middle of a lake.I was standing on a tiny, round paddle board — so small that my feet barely fit on it.And yet, it didn’t disturb my balance. I felt steady, calm, and surprisingly confident, as if the water itself was holding me rather than the board. Beneath the surface of the lake there was a lot of movement.Strange fish were swimming there, and many fishing rods lay scattered on the bottom — diffe

Li Koren Shtern
Jan 168 min read


5 Signs There Is No Love in the Relationship
🇺🇸 5 Signs There Is No Love in the Relationship Let’s be clear from the start: love is not words — love is action. When a man truly loves, he values the woman beside him and is afraid of losing her.When there is no love, he behaves as if his presence alone is a favor. If you constantly find yourself justifying his behavior(“he’s going through a hard time”, “that’s just how he is”, “he wasn’t loved enough as a child”),it’s time to stop and honestly look at what’s happening.

Li Koren Shtern
Jan 94 min read


On Unclosed Circles
🇺🇸 On Unclosed Circles During my recent trip to Thailand, while walking through temples,I noticed a small detail.On the hands of the deities — not on their necks, not at their feet — were garlands. Fresh flowers, resting softly, without tension, as a gesture of care rather than a request.I learned that such garlands — phuang malai — symbolize respect, gratitude, and connection.They are not offerings in exchange, but acknowledgments of presence: I see you, I am here. And th

Li Koren Shtern
Jan 23 min read
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